Total Submission


I’ve heard many women say that one of the reasons they’re scared to submit totally to God is cos they will most likely loose their current partner and won’t find a man who’s willing to uphold celibacy nowadays.
I too had that fear, and I agree that they aren’t a lot of them, but I’m pretty sure they’re enough to go around. I personally know about five men that I can vouch for.


So how do we deal with this dilemma?! Well, first of all; your job is not to do the seeking! The bible says HE WHO FINDS A WIFE, FINDS A GOOD THING…(Proverbs 18:22) So you have no business with seeking & finding a good man. Instead focus on your God and yourself, focus on your spiritual growth and well being, focus on being a better woman.


He Who Finds a Good Wife


Do this and watch how you naturally attract “your kind”, because the godly man knows the value of “the good thing” that is promised in Proverbs 18:22. If you think a typical man that’s of the world, wants a church girl that will try to restrain him from worldly pleasures…think again sister!!!


Truth is, that’s the kind of man(the godly man) you need if you intend to grow spiritually. Settle for otherwise and watch him limit your growth. My Dad restricted my mum in the past from going to church programs. When you go after and settle with an ungodly man, be rest assured that’s what your future holds. He’ll subdue your yearnings for God. Except by God’s grace he becomes saved somewhere in between.


Lastly, please remember that God is the ultimate! If you’ve not surrendered your life to him. You should today!!! Yes, it’s as easy as it sound…all you need is a genuine, mindful and deliberate decision to begin to walk with him as your Lord and Savior. The enemy wants us to think it’s difficult and there’s too much at stake to give up; Thus, causing delay! But by God’s grace it’s the sweetest transition you’ll ever make. Trust me!!!


Have you ever been in a relationship that ruined your connection with God?

How did you deal with it?
Feel free to share your experience in the comments section below, you never know who it may help.

Ej Ono.


12 Responses
  • JL
    August 28, 2016


  • Ola
    August 29, 2016

    This is succinct but indeed a very loaded post. Yes, I have been in multiple relationships that dwindled my relationship with God mostly because I didn’t come to terms with identity in Christ. However, I’m very glad that God has retraced my steps back to the cross, helped to cut off those toxic relationships, daily teaches me and prepares me for the best he has designed for me hence settling ain’t an option!!!

    • promodesty
      August 29, 2016

      Thank God for how he always finds a way to pull us back to himself, otherwise we’ll be too deep in filth to find our way back.

      I encourage you stay hooked on him, for a constant refill of his wisdom. There’s too much to learn, we gotta plug in sis!

      God bless you and always be with you and may his presence never leave you.

  • ozioma
    August 29, 2016

    I have had relationships that were very harmful both with the single and married plus several abortions, and of course I became a sister to delay. Everything I put my hands to always turn out unsuccessful; I managed to graduate from uni after one and half extra year and a low result thank God it wasn’t 3rd class but I am not happy, at 27 I have no serious r/ship, it’s like the moment I have canal knowledge with him, he disappears; no steady job only short contracts that ends at d most 1yr, recently I applied for masters and was denied visa.
    I remember going for prayers and the man of God said I have to cut of every sexual activity in my life, but then I did it for just 2months and was like “what sef”, cos I was jobless and broke and could onl get money from them sugardaddies, am sure u knw what it entails.
    Now am broken, I feel God has abandoned me, why me! My friends who r not pure too (with abortions too) have God paying jobs, bfs/fiance, good grades, have travelled for either vacay or studies, but whenever it’s my turn evrything will seize.
    Why is my own different? What have I done wrong? My life is at a standstill, I am at a cross-road! I am really tired. Why did God abandon me like this? I am the first child of my parents who are almost retirees, how do I take up responsibilities when everything is upside down in my life.
    Then I found ur story, I jst decided to pour out my grieve, I can’t even tlk with y bestfriend cos am already envious and furious, I hv been snaping at her.
    Pls help me!! I need to turn to God and and faith and trust in him cos am loosing it.

    • meah
      August 29, 2016

      Hi Ozioma, you don’t have to loose it. In fact, God loves you and wants you to come back to Him. That’s why everything is not working out for you. Wherever you are my dear, you can say these words sincerely
      “Lord Jesus, I come before you today, I know that you love me and you have good plans for my life, I’m sorry for the way I have lived my life before now, I’m sorry for disappointing you. You said in your word that whoever comes to you, you will not cast away. Father, I have come to you, pls have mercy on me. forgive me all my trespasses, wash me with the precious blood you shed on the cross of calvary, restore me Oh Lord and help me retrace my steps. Give me the grace not to go back to my past. Thank you Jesus for hearing me. In Jesus mighty name I pray, Amen”
      After you’ve said these, trust God to do the rest. Find a Bible believing church (if you have not being attending any), attend fellowships, pray regularly, study the bible and avoid those things that can make you revisit your past.
      God bless you.

    • Irene
      August 29, 2016

      @Ozioma there is one thing i have learnt. Your destiny is not the same with others, Just like Joseph in the Bible he lost all and was betrayed by his brothers. He had temptations but he still kept his focus on Jesus. You need totally surrender to Jesus. Whenever men that wants a serious relationship ask me about sex, I tell them Exodus 20:14 ‘Thy shall not commit adultery’. I also make them understand that i would not sleep with them in the course of the relationship and it is better for them to back off on time, and I stood my grounds. It gave me respect and the beauty of the Lord radiated in me. Good me are not looking for 5 mins sex. please note that the way a lady’s dresses almost tells much about her. My Husband would say “When I saw you, i knew you were good. Your choice of words and your godly character”. I watched you closely, your clothes and you never pretended in your behaviour. Money is good but you must not push yourself to wear expensive clothes & hairs when you not working. Trust me when a man knows your not working and see how you dress with your hair. I your not from a rich home he would conclude that your a ruins girl. Your would take you serious. Never date a married man, God’s judgement is upon those that breaks a home cause the man’s attention would be diverted away from his wife and kids.
      Your are crucified with Christ and your old body is dead. Trust him for your surprise and bless is on the way. delay is no denial.
      Please don’t block your way with men that has no future with you. Can you date a man with not car but has a job?Try and learn a skill like saloon, make up, tailoring to open a fashion house, or learn IT which is the current relevant skill in the industry.

    • I.A.
      April 4, 2017

      I got the same message from a man of God and I ignored it. Today, I am almost in the same situation as you are. I’m 30, unmarried, frustrated at work, been in 10 relationships and dumped by my last boyfriend after a lady got pregs for him. While at this, all my friends are married, my 2 closest friends have a kid each and I still havent gotten my act together. The worst part of it is the resentment I feel. I feel I’ve been a good girl and have nothing to show for it. Girls who’ve done worse things than I have enjoy the things i’m struggling so much for. This has shaken my faith in God; I vacillate between trust, anger and bitterness towards him. I don’t understand why I have suffered so much and I feel abandoned, afterall he says he will give his angels charge over us so why do I keep getting hurt? In all this, I’ve learnt some things:
      1. There’s no need compromising. Its not worth it at the end of the day
      2. Trust God. As difficult as it is to do that, still trust
      3. Get a friend who will encourage you at this time. That’s been one of the key things that have kept me going thus far and believe me, these friends don’t have to be your best friends cos all they might do is remind you of your shortcomings.
      4. Get a bible verse and hold on to it. At those times when it feels like nothing is going to happen, hold on to it.
      I hope this helps and I really pray you find direction and peace at this time. I have been and still am in your shoes so I can totally relate to what you are going through but just trust God. By God’s grace, this will become testimonies for us. God bless you.
      N.B. If you need a friend, I can be one. Just lemme know.

  • tega jemirieyigbe
    August 29, 2016

    @Ozioma… I understand how you feel.. No one is perfect, yes they are enjoying their lives now.. But think about later. You don’t know what price they are paying to get it and also maintain it too… Just focus on God. I used to have a lot of challenges in my life. Yes am too young to have challenges.. But it’s worth breaking heads over.. I have been having a lot of difficulties in my life in the past 2 years now.. Buh ever since I handed it over to God.. I have been relaxed.. Remember in that parable of Jesus in the new testament.. The woman persisted.. She disturbed the rich judge to vindicate her… Even if he never wanted to… He had to so that the woman would stop disturbing him.. That’s it with God.. There are some prayers I would pray to God.. That takes like a year to come to pass…buh the main thing is that is comes in a beautiful form.. Just keep hoping… One day…. There is always a Day meant for your testimony…

  • style
    August 30, 2016

    Your comment*thanks for lifting my soul

  • Abigail
    October 24, 2016

    Yes I was in a relationship that ruined my relationship with God. I thought I had found the right man cos at age 27 no man of my choice had expressed such interest in me and I thought I was lagging behind cos all my friends were getting married. I was gradually drifting away from God and making my then bf my priority (I would rather go visit him than go to church or prayer meeting), but thank God for His timely rescue. What really saved me was my decision never to have sex until marriage and I always said to myself that any man who would demand sex is not the right one for me. It wasn’t an easy decision to make but by God’s grace I ended the relationship and oh how relieved I felt. Thanks to God am now getting back on track with God. One thing I know for sure is that my God given man is out there and when my time of marriage comes, nothing can stop it IJN!! Amen

  • Francisca
    April 2, 2017

    Am very inspired…tanx fr sharing ur story bcos am also facing e same problems BT I knw my God will see me 22 nw completed Shs at e age of 18yr.u can imagine e years interval.. Still at home.i ave bought so many nursing forms BT I ave nt got any admission yet…my mum sell so i. Help her..wen pple CME to buy from her ..wen am wit her they will be askn me y am nt in school.I feel veri bad wen ever they ask me DAT.still prayn to God fr a miracle .I know God is preparing my special.

  • comment
    August 23, 2017

    Peculiar article, totally ᴡһat I needed.

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